Dear Dr. Date,
I met a lovely guy on DatingAgency.com and after chatting casually every night for a over a week, we decided to arrange somewhere to meet in person. We eventually met up and we had a great time. The date was very casual and I felt very relaxed in his company. There were no awkward silences, no differs of opinions and we generally got on great.
The thing is, he didn’t call back after the date and it’s been over two weeks now. I must admit, I could have called him, but as the days went by it got more and more obvious that he wasn’t going to call and I didn’t want to get rejected. I don’t know what’s better, not hearing back, or hearing back with a ‘thanks but no thanks’.
How can I move on from this with my self-esteem intact?
From Teresa (Name changed for privacy)
Thank you for sending in your dating dilemma, and sorry to hear you are feeling rejected by your date. I could ply you with cliches like “It’s not you, it’s him” and “There are plenty more fish in the sea” but I’m pretty sure that won’t help you much!
There are two key questions I know you will be wanting to know the answer to;
Why didn’t he call?
What’s wrong with me?
You have probably analyzed the date over and over again, trying to remember moments you could have blown it, or said the wrong things.
The reality is, I can’t tell you what the actual answers are. But I can leave you with this. In the end they didn’t call because they weren’t the right date for you.
As you get older, you get bolder. To avoid wasting precious time and heartache, don’t leave the ball in their court. You have to believe it’s their loss if they don’t call. You’re doing all the right things and you should continue to be a happy and complete person. Someone totally perfect for you will come along, take note of the great person you are and hang onto a great thing when they’ve got it.
If you are happy and confident, you will attract lots more dates. So, move on from this, the best is yet to come.