Flirting over the internet is pretty complicated because it is not always possible to gauge the true meaning of messages and emails without seeing the face of the person writing it. However, many clever online daters have discovered how to overcome the limitations of flirting online with great success. Here are a few easy tips to get you going:
Be generous, but genuine, with compliments
This one is simple really, as everyone loves to be adored and flattery gets you everywhere! Try not to be cheesy about it though! Casually compliment someone about their lovely smile in their profile photo or tell them that they make you laugh whilst instant messaging them.
We have seen that ‘sense of humour’ ranks highly on most members list of desirable traits in a potential date, but it’s really quite surprising how rarely people demonstrate this characteristic. Experience tells us that it’s best to leave the corny jokes until you know the person better, and are less likely offend. But if you take the time to come up with a line that’s tailored to the person you’re writing to, you will gain far more brownie points. Try casually joking about a shared interest—”I’m glad to find out that another non-geek plays chess” or bringing up a funny story from your past—”I see you like to go walking. The last time I went walking, I got terribly lost and had to call my friend to rescue me!” Relate the joke to the other member’s profile and you’ll be getting a fun, flirty response in no time. This further promotes the need to write a good profile description, so that people can find common ground and start conversations with you.
This is not particularly a flirting tip as such, but one of the most attractive things in a person is honesty. Just be yourself. Many people whilst meeting potential mates have the tendency to act like someone that they are not when they are online. This will work against you later on if you get caught out.
Do not be overly flirtatious
Discussing seriously intimate situations is a no no when messaging people for the first time. Being too open with sexual conversations, can be a real turn off for some people.
Keep to plain English
Try to avoid using a lot of internet lingo when having a conversation. Too many people overuse the acronyms like ‘LOL’ (Laugh out loud), and ‘ROFL’ (Rolling on the floor laughing). It’s annoying and may give the wrong impression about you.
Should you have just partaken in a little online chat with someone, why don’t you follow up with an email message or an electronic “thank you” card? Many people will see this as a lovely gesture and you will be sure to stick in this persons mind, if nothing but as a kind person!