How do you do this dating game?

So, I have been on here for a while and so enjoyed the company, although have not had much time to do the chat thing so not many of you will know me. Found solace here in times of dullness, thank you hey :)
So, the virtual dating thing has been great, toes in the water after coming out of a seven year marraige ( I think it was a marraige more like fighting with my brother really but thats another story) Two days out of the ball and chain I fell madly badly in love........ ARggggghhhhhh too soon, rebound? a six month rebound that ended in tears, all too much too soon, he was pushy for being a couple and then suddenly dumped me. I was so taken in at the time and ghee he was also my ideal dream guy in so many ways, well I thought he was at the time but now looking back he said all the right things and did all the right things and then disappeared over night!
So, got over that and have been single now for 10 months and have now met some one AGAIN ARGGGGHHHHHHHHH How on earth does this bloomin game work? The complications are that he is my new boss! And the whole idea of the ripples of gossip going through the company is making me very nervous. I am such a fool for romance, I like the guy yet dont even know him, feel like putting my cards on the table and saying, we go public or no go! It's in the stages of shyness and niether of us know what is going on really, it all happened with out thought (romance kind of does doesn't it! blast) But my question here is, as I am like a fish out of water here with this whole dating game, how on earth will he take it? See I am a coward and he seems to be sticking his head in the sand like an ostrich. So, guys how will he respond to me asking to go public? I mean it's only been 6 days, but we are bound to be found out soon, and I mean soon, it's a small place and that fact that we have been drinking in a pub where others from the company go too will make it probably in the next few days! I have sideways aksed but didnt get any where, and girls HELP ANY ONE HELP........ How does this game work?

Take it steady and slow down, take a good hard look at what you are doing to yourself. You're running from one disaster to another by the looks of things. If you both want people to know about you carry on drinking in the pub where others go. Personally I would avoid places where you are going to bump into people until you are both comfortable to do so.

six days? all i can honestly say is 'whoa there' !

Hi chess, a good name that. I like chess, but the point of the game is to get the king in checkmate, not to take the queen!

So, donning my twinset and pearls, my name is Georgina. You've come to the right place. Charlotte is right, irrespective of the quantity of alcohol consumed ;) On here you can take for ever to never get to know anyone and it can cost you, or you can slowly interact, and find out all those things that you overlooked. You can discover fake photos, fake personalities, you can irritate people, make them laugh, drive them mad with long posts, reveal the essence of yourself without ever getting hurt. There are some wonderful people on here. At the end of the day though, you can still meet people, you can still date, you can still dance round the maypole, go birdwatching or all those other things that couples do after the film cuts to the credits. Hopefully with the right person. Take your time, understand your patterns, is my advice.

Hello chess. Lots of good advice there. Are you sure you want or need to get involved with your boss?! IF it doesn't work out for you, things at work would be difficult for everyone around you and you risk even more heartache - after all you've been through. Give yourself a break, recover and then when you feel less confuddled and can think straight you'll probably get more fun and satisfaction out in another relationship.

Good luck which ever way it goes...and stay in touch!

Thank you for the sound advice. XX It's so tough to understand the dating game and the advice to slow down is just what I needed to hear. Brakes applying now! :) It's my birthday today and I am off to get my mountain bike and go for a bike ride, get some wind in my face and reflect on the past few days. Needless to say, but why not we are all in the same boat here, no text or card from the boss....... yet, it's early still. Oh well as we all go throuhg this roller coaster of life i am sure you all been there done it too. The woe's of romance hey. Tomorrow is another day and thankfully another day off work for me! Catch you all soon, and thank you for caring :)
Chess

Chess, Enjoy your bike ride and the time to care about yourself, I'm sure that if he thought enough about you it would have been more than a text message from him. Yes, I'm sure many of us have been in the same boat as you, I know I have been in a similar situation, I felt as though my world had ended after my last relationship fell apart, but eventually you realise that life goes on, pick yourself brush yourself down, hold your head up high and learn to love yourself before looking for anyone else.

Take your time and get to know him...when you both feel comfortable with your relationship..then maybe reveal all to one and all!!!!

Chess, hope you're enjoying your birthday - man or no man! :oD

Well the bike ride proved though going, ghee am so unfit!!!!
Had a great day, lunch and gifts from family so all is good. Oh I forgot to say.......... yes I got a text. I know only a text but a nice text. Well back to my glass of wine, will keep you posted, work on Saturday! Sure it will be fine, have decided not to anounce anything at all, just smile sweetly and turn on my heels if asked or teased. Thanks, you guys may have just saved my face and probably my job, and hey if it's the right guy my new roimance too. :) :) :)

Peppercorn.... do you really think that I should have ahd more than a text?????? oh dear....... see I am no good at this dating game at all.!!!!!!

Hi Chess, yes, at least a dozen red roses if he thinks anything about you.... I guess he did know it was your birthday?

yes he did. Ohhhhhhhhhh

But it's only been 6 days! Would that not be a bit over the top. I am the sort of person that gives a lot and I am often dissapointed that others don't give the same or even near. Some people give in other ways, it's just hard to see the other ways some times, but i am trying to be a bit more relaxed about things in life now, not have too many expectations in hope of not being dissapointed so often. A text was nice though. No text would have sent a signal of "it's off" Well it would have to have been!

Ok, guess six days isn't long, like you I give a lot and expect a lot in return, not necessarily gifts but thoughful acts, just to show that we care for each other, if you meet the right person that just happens for you, maybe he isn't the right one for you but time will tell. Aim high, you deserve it, expect the best and give him your best, if that doesn't work then move on, there will be someone out there that will give you as much as you give him.

Take care and keep in touch, Pepper x

Hey Chess, just looked at your profile, is that you up there with the parachute? looks pretty good to me lol :)

yes Pepper it's me. That was on my last birthday the other guy I talked about that did all the right things and said all the right things bought it for my birthday prezzie. So, I guess a text is a bit more down to earth. you see that's the trouble some can say and do all the right things for their own gain and not yours, so am a bit weary now.

Yes, it does get confusing sometimes, guys can give out the wrong messages, even text messages lol :) well, they are more down to earth than a paraglide! don't be weary for too long though :)

IT'S JUST SO DIFFICULT TO READ MEN!!!!! GRRRRRRRRRR AND I wasn't ready to meet any one......... it's all so confusing, fun, but confusing. I think I can get better at this dating game though and am game for trying anyway LOL