Just looking or Interested

I have to agree with Shar, once or twice is browsing, but more than that, well interested, (or cant believe you said that!)

Thanks for comments All :-)

Pepper/Ophelia I agree with what you say.

WS - You are the only one wooing me at mo LOL!

Keith - the only reason I don't keep looking at your profile is because I remember your smiling pic, despite the changing screen name.

Hope to catch you online over the weekend, long live the threads.

x

Thanks for comments All :-)

Pepper/Ophelia I agree with what you say.

WS - You are the only one wooing me at mo LOL!

Keith - the only reason I don't keep looking at your profile is because I remember your smiling pic, despite the changing screen name.

Hope to catch you online over the weekend, long live the threads.

x

Hey Shar, well it looks like I'm a gonna have to do the asking then lol, see what happens tomorrowwwwwwwwwwwwwww lol

Thing is, as I found out, if someone looks, sends a wink, kiss, roses, chocolate heart etc - that's 5 'looks'. I did have one guy who looked 47 times which was a little worrying!

I think if a man has gone to all that bother, he should drop a line to say he's not a pervert!

Frankly, I think it's quite flattering but it makes me giggle at the number of men (boys) who think they are in with a chance at the age of 17!

I tend to think this 'looking' thing is more a flicking through a magazine and taking a second look if something strikes you as appealing. Of course, the down side to this thought is that if they don't look again or send you a message, they aren't impressed! lol x Not that I'm that bothered coz my man thinks - nope, I promised Mysti I wouldn't go on about him!
Lol x

Melting Heart x

Oops not sure what happened then with my message.

Sorry for duplicate, it wasn't that impressive.

x

I've only just seen your double entendre Poppy, or did you think it a faux-pas? Oo la la! (I like French)

Sacre bleu! Now they all know! I will woo you with ardour, lest they think me a southern softie.

Beaucoups d'amour (and more)

WS xx

WS

You are in fine form this morning!

I love french films but don't speak it unfortnately, I don't have the patience to learn.

x

*chuckle*

I've had three people each look at my profile at least three times over the last four days ...

...going by your reckoning I should be "well in" there but none of them have even said "Hello" and in these days of equality then there should be nothing wrong with a woman throwing a message over the wall to a bloke! :-D

Phil

I employ a secretary to answer my mail, using the template that I devised for the purpose.

I have to agree with the goldfish theory, I can look at a profile and then forget I have seen it the next day, or see that someone has looked at me just to remember I looked at them, so they look at me for looking at them.... (This could go on a while)

As for some blokes being shy, yep it's true, we can be. I try not to be but sometime I can't help it, at least I'm not as shy online as I am in person, I don't think thats possible.

Wezzy, how can you be shy online? You'd never communicate! So how would anyone know that you exist?

Ms-speling, dysexlic tryping, missing and duplicated words are my problem, (I just don't do that when talking!) which can lead to confusions of meaning, and you don't get to see the overenthusiastic gesticulation, but you just hope that somehow she will peep through the cloudy telescope which is DA, and thinks 'hey this guy is worth getting in touch with'

A little shyness never did anyone any harm though; I always make sure I'm fully clothed before text :)

remember the old saying ladies first david500xx

What? R U serious, men do that? I have exactly the same problem- women I can se who've visited my profile and are paid up members so can contact me but don't get in touch. In fact, I always browse thru to see who's looked at my profile then tell them off playfully, for takinga peek but not connecting with me. There are some hopelessly passive people out there, eh?!

There is 1 other reason why they may look and no more and that is because they liked your profile photo but then got put off by something they the read on your profile. I have seldom done that but where I hear some nonsense about not wanting anything serious or not wanting to have kids or if she writes, 'Here's me and my drunk friends and they all say I'm crazy and how did I end up on this site, i can't believe it' (i.e. which translates naievly as 'I am alright, but you must be sad losers to be on here'). Well, yes those things would put me off...

P.S. My opinion is that any men who are so gutless to take a zero risk interest to peek at your profile more than once and then take no action, are absolutely worthless creatures who SHOULD not have their genes replicated and thus polluting the race!

I have gotten to stage where I am so used to writing women who NEVER reply that I am pretty passive and easily will pass a month or more of not writing anyone and then may get 1 women writes me. I always then complement her on being proactive enough to actually contact me ( thank goodness, you do exist!!). Problem is that this has happened three times now and I simply didn't fancy the women physically when I met them. I am not that choosy but I have never fancies anyone I think has pouchy cheeks or is overweight.

Obviously, dating roles are not gonna change anytime soon as far as meeting in person. However, as far as online dating, I be surprised if any guys said they feel at all iuncomfortable being approached online by a woman as it's just an artificial scenario anyway, u know...

Good luck and I will take a peek at ur profile now, to see if u happen to be a cutie afterall!

Hi Poppy,

Well, I visited ur profile, but I am looking to meet a woman my age or younger ( I am really looking for a wife at 35 and kids, u see!). Good luck on ur man hunt, eh....

Hi DD

Thanks for your response, I see you have posted some interesting conversations, it's a great way to find out more about this dating minefield :-)

Good luck in your search and hope you find what you are looking for too.

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"What? R U serious, men do that? I have exactly the same problem- women I can se who've visited my profile and are paid up members so can contact me but don't get in touch"

Maybe they didn't like what they read on your profile! This is not meant as a critisism, but you may be not what they are looking for.

It happens...you think hey, not a bad pic, or they sound good fun on the threads. You take a peek at their profile and decide not to make contact.

I have no problem with people looking at my profile and not making pm contact.

Have you thought people may just be nosey, especially as you're a vocal new member? People are just curious....and yes I know what it did to the cat!

People look at profiles more than once for many reasons,they may have forgotten they have already visited it! It maybe because they want you to know they are intersted....who knows unless contact is made? First Contact - good name for a film! Oh, it's already been used hasn't it !

You don't have to make contact with someone whose profile you've looked at, it's not part of DA rules and regulations as far as I know...

:):)