Where is the best place to find a mate?

What I can't seem to understand is how come there seem to be so many ladies on this site that don't seem to be able to find a suitable man? I have several male friends and they are all single, and you know what, the opposite is true, there are just no available women! Of all the women I now,(and I am talking fleshyland here) yeah okay it's not that many, none of them have any trouble finding men.

Now ladies you are probably going to crucify me for saying this but perhaps, just perhaps, you are being to fussy about your "requirements"? Could this be true, that you are looking for Mr. Perfect when unfortunately Mr.Perfect does not actually exist?

The same goes for Mrs. Perfect, she does not exist either and both men and women need to be aware of this. Perhaps someone that comes close to what you are looking for may, in fact, turn out to be ideal for you?

I just can't believe that you lovely ladies of this site can't find someone special. It just leaves me speechless.

Okay now hang me, I'd do it myself but I did not go to boy scouts and learn how to tie all them swanky knots!

Morning Cmdr
I find myself agreeing with you...if I hadn't just got up I'd be lying down in a dark room until the feeling passed!


Keith

lol morning Keith x

Morning cmdr....Fussy me?
well yes perhaps I am, but surely we've got the right to be as fussy as we were in our 20's or 30's in fact even more so....

I obviously wasnt as fussy as I should have been considering what a jerk I married! lol ;-)

Morning Keith, morning Shar - I hope you are both well.

As mentioned in an earlier post, dance classes works well to interact with the opposite s e x.. I’m talking salsa, ceroc, jive, latin, ballroom etc. ie. partner dance.

Have danced salsa for a while and find the environment very social, just like minded people wanting to enjoy a night out, learn a new ‘skill’ and improve their fitness in a very relaxed and fun way!

Can’t say you will meet the elusive ‘one’ but getting out in realworld has to be a good thing, after all, there is more to life than the single goal..

Mr Sparkle

I'd say the problem for most is in finding a 'suitable' date were there is mutual attraction. There's no point going on a date just for the sake of it if you don't think there's the possibility of any chemistry existing between you's.

MG

Afternoon :)

I used to think the elusive spark was the only factor you needed to strike up a relationship but I've changed my mind! (female)

I think the biggest problem most of us have is that we're not willing to spend the time to get to know someone to find out if we like them enough to even want to spark off of them. After all, how many times in your life do you come across someone who takes your breathe away and makes your pulses race the very first time you see them? I know it happens but not very often and to be honest, that kind if heat usually burns itself out quite quickly. I much prefer the building a relationship on the back of a good friendship approach myself. Of course if you're lucky enough to find both you're extra lucky :D

*pets WD* Yes dear, you're my both ;)

Shesh, men can be so sensitive *snicker*

Oh oh Shar!
I didn't realise it was your thread! Hellooooooo number two :D

Hmm I may have to give you a new name, number two doesn't sound quite right lol

Did you see Niterider call me sensible on another thread?!? *snicker*

Well Shar depends on whether you are a person that goes out often socialising... ! If so then maybe you will find someone to date... ! For those that don't go out then the internet is about the only way of meeting people making friendships and perhaps finding someone to date! Of course you could meet someone if you join an evening class at your local college...the chances of whether they are single well thats the gamble...I have been to evening classes and most people I met on those classes were married or attached! Thats my opinion for what it is worth! O x

holidays sting ya for prices they expect you to pay for 1 even if they say they dont, trust me iv tried.
Asda is wrong place when your mind on what you need not what you want...lol
nightclubs make me feel old now,full of 16 to 25s...way too young.
Work, i agree NOOOOOOOOOO GO.
Gym, maybe when iv lost a few stone first, but am too busy melting to look around,and sure dont smell or look good.
SO all thats left is faith! in hopes MR or MRS right is out there thinking and looking at the same time.
Did i say faith or fate ?

Im off to tesco ...

Every little helps Mike... ;)

Hi Everyone :-)

Yes Mainguy you've hit the nail on the head!
I'm not fussy but I just don't want to date for the sake of a date!! Oh I'm sooooo pleased I'm not fussy ;-)

Pure I also agree with you Miss sensible (twice in one day!)
I think the friendship side is very important too, but still think there has got to be a spark of some sort!!
You know when you go weak at the knee's lol.

Mike let me know how you get on at Tesco's lol xx

Shar!
Quick!
Help!

The love of my life, who is truely the most wonderful and excellent man on the planet, not to mention amazing in bed, the most handsome knight in shining armour and everything else! Is one his way home from work and has said he's going to read the threads when he gets home!

Quick!
Help me hide the evidence!!
If the threads more than a page or two he gets ADD and gives up reading!

Quick post for my love life!! *snicker*

Cheers Shar01.

Obviously a 1st date is just a 'meet up' to judge whether there is any chemistry there. If so, then yes I'd say building up a friendship is important; the physical side alone isn't enough for a lasting relationship - if that is what you want out of it.

Hi all,

It's very difficult to get a knee trembler when mailing to threads. I think you have to see the person, cause you can't see the body language, the subtle signs that we all give away. I think its like talking through a wall. Perhaps safer as well

B

Lol Pure this is for your love life ;-)
Hope it helps!

(hugs) xx

Y'know, just a thought I'd like to share with you all.... you see all those people in the 'who's online' screen?... who are they all talking to?... we can see they're online and they're not posting on here... so what *are* they doing?.... ever wondered? or am I just having strange thoughts again? :O

Hi Di they are proberly arranging dates instead of nattering on here lol ;-) x

There probably eyeing you & shar up Di lol ;-)

You should be flattered