Where is the best place to find a mate?

No Chris, then they would be in the 'who's looking' screen now wouldn't they.... ;)

Tesco was fun lol ... I love people watching ...
some very strainge people in wiltshire ... oooo hello shaz xx

But would you recommend it to get a date???

Hey who you calling strange? :-P

Noooo not for a date .. fresh fish is good though lol

Hello
Acorrding to surveys you are more likly to find a date going to church than you are on a dating site?
I dont like the church but that could be why I am single?
Dont think its got anything to do with the fact that I bite people. 'VV'

Hi Shar, how about going on holiday, I found a lovely man on my holiday :)

Hi Shaz and all

do you think that you ar egetting hardened as to what people write in their profile and do you discount them (or yourself) for the sake of one or two words? e.g. "clubbing", "bungie jumping" ?

These words could srike terror into unsuspecting readers!!
Simple words get re-coded, "tactile"= "GROPER", "passion"="SELF TAUGHT SUPER STUD", "caring and considerate="WIMP"

Then again, you may be totally up all the points that you attribute to each person and think that they dont equal your last Ex, so why lower your standards??

Fussy, Choosy, Picky, call it what you like, it happens!!

I've seen so many stunningly beautiful women on different sites and always think "Why hasn't she been snapped up" or "she could pick anyone - but not me"

Maybe, some profiles, let alone actually meeting people, takes us completely out of our comfort zone as it's not what we are used to? We used to date from initial face-to-face contact and from our own community with lines like "Hey you're nice, fancy a dance", slightly more generous, "can I get you a drink"? or straight off with "do you want to date me?" if really lucky "my mate over there thinks you're smashing , will you dance with him/her"

Times have changed, maybe we all still need an attitude adjustment to catch up??

jay (rambled on enough)

Morning Jay

Believe me...I am not looking for anyone like my EX!

Anybody and I mean anybody....and I would be raising my standards!! lol

I think its more a case of not wanting to get it wrong again, so yes more picky, choosey and I'm not going to apologise for that :-) xx

Hi Shar

Keep on looking, set your standards and stick to them, you have the right to be picky about who you want to date but there is no harm is meeting up with someone for a drink and to see how it goes. "Nothing Ventured Nothing Gained"

Pepper x

I personally don't think I am being too fussy.The problem I find being a single female is where do you go to meet guys if your friends are not available to go out with you...It is not common practice for females to go out on their own and I for one would never contemplate going out for a drink by myself and I never seem to bump into any nice guys when I am doing my shopping either.

Dating sites seem to be the place for me at the moment but I would hope that would change in the near future and I get out and about more in "fleshyland" either that or I should just give up all hope of meeting that special guy...which of course I am not going to do lol..

shazzi xx

Shazzi, I know you live a long way from us sweetie, but can't you try and make some of the meets?... you could've had your pick at Blackpool... there were loads of nice (although mad) guys there... just ask Steve HAHA.. he pulled twice! ;D

I guess I fall into the 'picky' or 'fussy' catagory too, but I have learnt something recently.......I'm currently dating someone who, on paper, was not at all my 'type'. But we exchanged a couple of emails and it went from there.

I'm just trying to say (not to anyone in particular) don't go on profiles alone, you never know..........

Chris

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Hey Di I will try to make one of the meets but they would need to be a bit nearer for me as it does cost quite a bit travelling from here and not always easy either. I just keep my eye on where they are...maybe one day di..

shazzi

Hi Pepper, thanks for that, I have been on dates with some that do not 'seem' my type and have made friends if nothing else, so yes you are right there, but as you say I cannot date or have a boyfriend just for the sake of having one!

Hi Chris...yes I do agree that the profile is just a very small part of getting to know about someone, and I don't let just that put me off ;-)

Shazzi Hi there, yes its not always easy to go out in fleshyland when a lot of your friends are married, its the same for me too :-(
But contray to this thread yes I was interested in any idea's for ways to meet people, but I wasn't actually desperate to find a date......well not yet LOL :-)

Thanks for all the replies, I think I'm off to dancing classes ;-)

Evening All

Just been reading up on this interesting thread.

Fangs - Not sure what type of churches were surveyed but my local church is full of women (sometimes hubbies drag in!) and lots of 60-70 year old men and women. No fit single male in sight :-)

Shar - dancing is the way forward at least we will be having fun
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i think if your open and honest there a good place to start david500xx

Hi there,

Well, I met my (first) husband because I lived next door to him ... met my second on line(BIG mistake). Met the man I'm dating now because he was introduced to me by my neighbour - hmm, I have previously had a very happy 3 year relationship with someone I met on line. So who knows? I say go for whatever and use your noddle. You are just as likely to meet an axe murderer at a party, in your local pub or down the supermarket as you are on line. I guess if you are introduced via a friend to someone they have known for years and can vouch for, that is a pretty good screening but hell, how often does THAT happen! (and yes, Mr Man Next Door has his issues too!)

Good luck and safe hunting!

LM x

Internet dating sites are an amazing place to meet other singles. It really works but it also depends on what your purpose and how you use it.

I met my girlfriend on okcupid.com last year. We chatted for a while before exchanging our cell numbers. After couple of weeks we also met few places like restaurant, park, etc... Our relationship is going very well and internet helped me to find out her.