Nothing serious

What do people mean when they say in their profiles or personal messages that they are in no rush for anything serious or heavy?

I used to think that "serious" or "heavy" in this context meant "no sex" ie just friendship.

But now I wonder if it may mean something like "see how it goes, but no church bells"...

What's the consensus, or does this mean different things to different people?

No need to reveal your innermost thoughts, I just wonder what you think the terms mean, in general.

Keith

To me it would mean that you didn't want to become involved or want anyone to become involved in your life; ie: you just want to meet someone, have a good time but nothing more. The relationship is never going to develop into anything more than going out with each other; no intentions of settling down with anyone.

Hi Keith and pepper :-)

Yes I agree Pepper, but how can anyone say that because although that might be your intention.. you might just meet someone and become very involved without being able to help it!

Shar :-) x

hiya Shar Pepper Keith,
I agree Shar, they have probably been in a relationship and now decided not to again, hence their sentence. But this where love comes into it's own surely, it is I would have thought a terminology where,just friendship is what I want. Life isn't like that is it, no one knows what is round the corner, out with a friend for only coffee etc next thing your talking about that person to someone, next well we all know it's history ( they are in love ) I know , I know your going to say how romantic, yes very true, but can you say it doesn't happen. Something more for you to talk about :)

I think 'no rush' or 'anything serious/heavy' does mean different things to different people.

For me, I take it to mean a 'see how it goes' type of thing. No expectations.

Again, for me, there is nothing more off putting that reading about someone looking for a soulmate etc, etc, as that's not what I'm looking for. I have to narrow down the field somehow!!!

:):)

I agree with mousebat.
For me it'd mean that I'm not looking to romantically involved with anyone, even though obviously, like niterider says, things do evolve and become more. I just think that things have to start with friendship first because I couldn't even think about meeting anyone with a view to "being with" them.


Evenin' peeps :)

Nothing serious or heavy. To me that says the person wants to have a good time. Simple as that without getting bogged down with emotional feelings. As I am sure that most people on this site are well aware, emotional feelings can be extremely destructive sometimes.

true very true

Keefy, it's simple. Nothing serious means they want a shag providing you are beautiful, which, invariably, they are not. These people are usually middle aged or older blokes, who are pigs but have oodles of money, or older women who have the looks but fuck all to offer in reality.

Either way mate, you are not missing out. So don't give it another thought, they don't.

well I have to say I agree with most of the definitions on this thread except for the one from awaywiththefairies...sorry but feel it is just a bit harsh!!!

shazzi

i agree with the person who is off with the fairies. generally speaking anyhow. i dated a few guys when i first joined da who said they wanted 'nothing heavy or serious'. in fact they were merely emotionally constipated and wanted everything (including 'that') other than commitment...fine, but one even had a virtual panic attack if *I* suggested a day/venue for our next date, rather than it being left him. i'm sure there are women who are like this but, sorry guys, i think it does tend to be more of a male characteristic.

I think it means ... lets take our time, have some fun and see what develops, but I don't wont you to have my babies or to move in with me.
And as with all things people move on relationships change, who knows with a little luck a new life may open up.

Hi Mike and everyone

Well for me it would definitly mean I don't want any babies! lol

But yes friendship and see how it goes for the rest :-)

Yikes! same for me, no babies. Also no live in lover either!!!

I agree with Shar01, friendship first...

:):)

true very true

To me, it means friendship and fun.

If that involves sex, fantastic, if not, no bad feelings.

In any relationship, sex is important if both feel the same for each other, as I feel making love is perhaps the only way that true feelings can be shown and shared.

To me sex can be differentiated from making love.

just my 2 new pees worth.

Bx

true very ture

men tuh! sigh......

true v true plz

quite amazingly outstandingly mind-numbingly true....