Can you feel it ........

Is chemistry something that develops over time or does it hit you within minutes of meeting someone.

How can you get on really well with someone over the phone and really like them as a person but then on meeting think - no way!

Can you feel chemistry in conversations or any other form or is it only clear on meeting face to face. If that's the case, is it best to meet first without getting into lengthy conversations.

Anyone want to share their thoughts ?

Hi Poppy

Interesting question!

From my own experience I think it's only clear when you meet someone face to face as to whether there is 'chemistry'.

Each time I went on a date I knew within the first few minutes they wouldn't be getting a second date. This is despite the fact that we seemed to get on well through email etc. Of course, they may probably have felt the same too!

I now think it's best to meet early on.

Still not spoken to anyone I'd want to meet on here...yet!
As I've said before, I'm in no rush.

:):)

Hi Poppy and mousebat...
yes I agree with mousebat, you'll only really know if there is any chemistry when you meet.

Ive emailed and chatted for ages only to meet and its a no go!

Proberly is best to meet early on, but then again if your enjoying chatting online and forming a friendship why not carry on, if nothing else you will have a good friend from it!

Shar :-) x

hello to all ,
i agree that its only when you meet face to face that you can tell if you want more with the person in question .

meetin early is the answer for me as you can talk all you like on here and think there is a spark , then when you both meet up , you feel all you said was wasted .
just my own opinion, as this works for me .

First impressions count. You see someone, and you think "WOW".
So, I do think you have to meet ... however, having seen Poppy, Shar and Pepper, to name a few, I get a warm feeling (stop it) and feel that there is some attraction there, as chatting, you do get a feel for what that person thinks and feels, and what makes them tick.

As for those you don't chat, well, maybe shy, or just here for company.

Bx

Hi everyone,
Of course this is my own opinion, but I would have thought perhaps if you have made contact by email then by phone, you get to know the persons voice, email you get their thoughts, when then after a short time then meet you would have got an idea in your mind & you already know the persons ideals in or about life. The rest would be down to for first meet,after all don't forget from previous threads some are shy,& will open up more on email & or phone rather than at first meet only say this as of reading some of the threads & conversations on here. At the end of the day, compassion, listen, read between their lines ( body language ) if you like, after all isn't it friends we are looking for as well as a partner, if this being the case, we have lost nothing, if neither person at meet hasn't been rude, then you have definitely gained another friend. How bad is that, it's friends that make life precious just as much partners.

A very interesting question !
in the past i have emailed and texted men and got on with them really well as friends, but when met in person I could tell quite early on that the chemistry was not there !
Thats properly why I am still single ! Still to find that man who I will click with, if he exists !!

Yep! I agree with everyone!

x

i agree with every1 in the world

well are you a confuse man peaceful bloke , as they are so many confliting opinions in the world lol

way to go pb.....there's be no more wars n' shit would there if everyone was like you. I'm gonna start singing Imagine now by the late great Johnny L
x

Chemistry is two fold ie mental chemistry and physical chemistry. The mental one can be apparent by talking to them (obviously), the physical one on meeting up. And don't necessarily think that because someone isn't good-looking that there will be no chemistry there, quite the opposite at times. However, only each individual knows if it's there or not, on meeting.

If you have both, BINGO!

Hi Grace, my little chemistry set...

Well, I think you always know (or should) that you will get on OK when you meet but yes, there is the elusive chemistry.

I've often been ready to explode whereas the woman has had the fire blanket to hand, but there have been happy occasions when the chemistry has been there, however I think that what burns bright tends to burn out, a slow burning fuse might be the thing, sorry about the long sentence Grace.

Keith xxx

Grace what an excellant summary of chemistry
and I have voted it so :-)

Spot on Grace and Keith...I agree with both of you there..xx

Jue and Shar...thank you :o)

Hope you're all well x

Thank you all for your responses, I was hoping to cut out the meets and get to the chemistry. I now realise you have to meet to establish if there is any chemistry.

Grace - you have summed it up really well, I totally understand. Thank you. xx

Have a nice evening all, isn't the world a wonderful place.

x

Poppy...glad my words rang true :o)

Love,

G xxx

Grace

You have a wise head for such a young lady :-)

hugs
xx

Poppy - the fiver's in the post lol!

xxx