Can you feel it ........

Sometimes it's being in a group and just being able to listen as well as join in. It gives you the time for reflection rather than those deathly silences that you feel you just have to fill. You don't need to agree with others all the time to get on. It can sometimes be something that you feel passionate about the gives you something to talk about. Other times you can just sit there soaking up the atmosphere of conversation. Being quiet doesn't always mean that you are not listening and feeling.

Sonia... in answer to your question, I believe the answer is both, but you have to decide. I taught chemistry a few years back and one aspect I found fascinating was adjustment of the factors influencing rates of reaction.

If you get an explosion, neither are in control and the chances are you end up in bed quite quickly, and it all fizzles out after about three months, UNLESS the other ingredients get a chance. If it's less immediately powerful, but you get an intuition that maybe something a bit more sophisticated is happening, you can have fun adjusting the ingredients, it will take more time, but you can end up with a self-sustaining reaction which will continue indefinitely!

It's just unfortunate that as a means of introduction 95% of the ingredients are missing with this medium, so unless you get to date, you'll never know - and it's far easier to judge in the absence of most of the facts than to be true to yourself whilst trusting in the unknown. You deserve more than just an explosion, and as a fellow traveller guided by the light in the ocean of life I truly hope you have found your match.

You've made it clear to me the kind of person I want to meet, and that kind of person is both rare and worth waiting for. God bless, I wish you every happiness.

George x

Although everyone is different and I am by no means, a typical male, when it comes to what I am looking for from a mate and a relationship, I think that outside of meeting someone online and then meeting in person, on a date, men operate differently from women re. chemistry and first impressions (in person).

For example, if a man likes you enough to continue eye contact with you that split second longer, from across a cafe, bar or whatever social venue. if he has enough confidence to go up and speak to you, then 90% of the time he already has made his mind up that he wants to date you and see you again. Personally, I want to meet a woman with whom our rapport is witty and our 'relationship' or interactions is playful and frank and spontaneous. If that' s not there, my interest wanes very fast.

However, men are or aren't attracted to your looks and figure. If they like your looks, then unless you actually are rude or sound stupid as hell to him or brush him off, then there's not much opportunity for you, as a woman, not to be guaranteed a date with the guy (if you so choose to offer him your no. and agree to meet him). By the time, he's made the effort to come over and meet and greet you, a complete stranger, you pretty well have a done deal.


Lucky you!

DancingDervish in Dundee