I've realised it's my own fault

Keith lol I just knew you'd say that...
women only go for the baddies... ;-)

But I'm trying not too honestly x

Hello Shar and everybody else,

Have found this thread interesting. Trust and respect is very important, however, it is earned, not given (just how I feel) and that can take time. Some of us want to take our time and some want to rush things when meeting someone new. I suppose it all depends where we are (emotionally) at that specific time as individuals in our own lives.

I have been single for 4 years now, along the way I have met and made a few good friends, however, my problem is that my work requires that I travel alot, and this has become a vicious circle for me, because as I have not met my soulmate yet in this period, I tend to work harder and travel more, thereby, creating a situation where I actually cut myself off from everything.

And that is why Shar your thread made me stop and think. In all probibility I am hiding behind this work/travel situation to protect myself.

Also, in all honesty, it would take a very special man to tolerate the way I live my life. Therefore coming back to trust and respect.


xx

Hi Vanilla :-)

It's so strange, isn't it that we don't realise what we are doing.
I dated someone back in January for 6 weeks and he couldn't have been nicer, on paper he was perfect, but I paniced and pressed the self destruct button and that was the end of that!

Its only just dawned on me now what I might be doing......

Shar x

Hi Shar,

Now we just have to do something about it. And as life is all about change - we just have to get on with it.


Thing is I am happy with my life, however, having someone to share it with me would be wonderful......erm......but reckon he would have to be quite mad ! lol


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Hi Shar I totally recognise what you are saying here. I find that while I am flirting and chatting with guys that everything is ok but as soon as one shows any interest in me at all or asks me out for a date I find myself running away and I really don't know why...guess its the same old reason of not wanting to be hurt again. The sad part is that I do want to date again and meet a really nice guy to be with with but I need to be able to say yes to them and go out for that date so hopefully there will be a guy somewhere on here that will change my mind and make me very happy.

shazzi xx

Hi Shazzi snap....yes I do want to date and meet a special person too, but what do we do.... we keep running away :-(

Have to say being single does have its plus's too........

so its not all doom and gloom :-) xx

Shazzi plucking up the courage is worth it in the end. The first man you accept a date from may not be your Knight in Shining Armour but it will give you the confidence to try again.

And yes, trust shouldn't be a right, but has to be earned. However, we have to let someone in in the first place in order for them to earn that trust.

I'm sounding very philosophical - that's worrying!

G xx

Shall I paste the lyrics to Moody Blue again?...that's how it feels like to be on the receiving end of you indecisive women!

Keith xxx

Keith...men have their own issues to deal with. They're no different to the greater sex :o)


G xxx

Keith...men have their own issues to deal with. They're no different to the greater sex :o)


G xxx

That message was so good it appeared twice (internet connection issues - sorry!).

In my case, it's been the opposite. I jumped in both feet, got back in to the dating game, have been out with several 'Knights in Tarnished Armour' and now have completely lost my confidence. None of these dates were horrendous, but not for me.

I have come to the conclusion that I have very high expectations, which keep getting higher! I've always known this. It doesn't bother me.

I've come to the conclusion that I prefer to stay as One rather than one half of a couple. However, as I've said before, sometimes I do get the 'itch' to have a date.

It's not that women Don't know when they go with "baddies" but I think they find them more exciting.and look upon a "good guy" as not quite as exciting so not getting the attention they deserve.

Hello VS. Very wise words. But when you say trust and respect is earned so takes time........how long we talking before you have to draw the line? whats acceptable amount of time?

what defines a man as a 'goodie' or a'baddie'??????

That's not the case for me, Wise1 (hello btw!). Have had enough dates with bad guys and know they're not for me, I don't find them exciting, I find them threatening (perhaps too strong a word but can't think of a more appropriate one right now). I want a genuinely good man who won't mess me about, not Mr Perfect by any means as none of us are that, but unfortunately in this day and age, finding one is taking some finding. But am determined to keep trying...and it's also down to that elusive chemistry that is mentioned on Poppy's thread. Without it...a r/ship won't succeed.

A bad guy just has only his intrests at heart and that will come out fairly early on in a relationship.

A good guy will put the intrests of the lady first.

Ah! I see..
Thank you for explaining.

Put it that way, that describes about 75% of the dates I've had.

Personally, I'm more concerned with whether a man is intersting or not.

Hi wise1,

Cuts both ways, don't you think?

x

Hi lemonade, It's been a while since we talked.

Yes I agree that chemistry is a key factor in all our r/ships without that we have nothing, and as you say none of us is perfect and in all r/ships we will make mistakes.

But we all go down the path of life and when we come to a crossroad we have to choose which one we go down and sometimes fate deals us a bum deal. But we carry on till we choose the right path.