The Eight Steps of Online Dating...

Afternoon all, I have to agree with Chris and Keith think it was meant as a funny light-hearted thread.....................

But can see why it upset some :-( (just my opinion x )

That's ok Shar..we are all allowed our opinions!! xx...I just think whether the person mean that or not it was a bit thoughtless of him.

Sense of humor failure or what? Can't you see when things are meant as a joke????? !!!

Going away wearing the give up hat!

and I wonder if someone else had posted this joke if the reactions would have been different....

violin time, again!!

No they are being re threaded.

they were re-threaded earlier this week, due to overuse!

Yeah but someone else was playing them!

I don't think so!

er..yes so!

can't think of anyone who has violins playing in the background as often.

well, he gets on my nervs too but people reacted a bit too much over nothing but a childish nonsense really, methinks

"childish nonsense" - absolutely!

I found it interesting that the op could 'joke' about internet dating, cause offence to some, laugh it off, but yet can't seem to join in with a bit of humour when the tables are turned i.e violins in the background, which is a long running light hearted theme.

I'm just trying to make a point here.

I usually 'police' playground behaviour at school, but sometimes when off duty and being in the sun all day,I can't resist joining in!!

:):)

you are always welcome as a player or as "police" playground behaviour, mousebat. Pleasure reading you xx :))

Well thank you, Imagen!

Enjoy this lovely evening.

Cmdr I have a sense of humour, if your intentions were to have this as humour, then humour me, you should have finished that thread on a lighter note, you didn't it was the same all through, sense of humour failure yes on your side, did you say your wearing your give up hat, three cheers to that then. Unless you have something bit lighter & not so gross, despite the fact this has been open to a whole new convo
thank you Mousebat & Pol for your support

Niterider, if I was a woman I'd ask you for a date - there are few people as levelheaded and plain decent as you.

However, I am going to ask you a different question - have you yet had a date? Although I think Cmdr_data can succeed in pushing people away by expressing frustration, we can all do that at times. I do think there are a lot of people with no real interest in dating. I mean this 'looking for friendship' thing? How many people need to ask for a date to make a friend? And the assumption by some that we are obsessed with sex? Who on earth in their right mind wants sex without a relationship? There are houses of ill repute for that!

If I have any problem at all, it is with what the British have become, and I do not find it pleasant. What do you think?

Hi W-S, it is late, as usual for me, lol, you took the time to write so I am going to reply the best I can.
first off thank you for compliment, pleased you haven't asked me for date though lol.
Dating, I have been on a date with peeps on here yes Western, possibly not the answer you want though, because my date was with a few peeps at a meet. I will go to meets if I get asked, it helps peeps then get to know me & vice virsa, this way you get too know more peeps & talk more, the upside, well you possibly get to become friends, to me this is what it's about, get to know each other or others, it becomes easier to ask for a date, the first meet on your own you both have an idea already, so half the battle. Looking for friendship & see how it goes, does that not tell you something, it all means the same, if the chemistry is there then see how it goes is then already here.
I'm not sure really how you want me to answer you on this, but anyway, it's late now & thread is possibly finished so don't think there are anyone going to read. So to your answer on sex, I don't have sex on first night, I think it gives the lady a false impression, so okay she does want sex ,so now you have annoyed or upset her, no I don't think so, just think what tomorrow will bring, if she thinks you are the right guy for her. I don't go for assumptions nor do I assume, to your other part , I'm afraid there are peeps out there who want nothing else BUT, they wont go to your houses of ill repute, that I'm afraid is life.

Regarding your other question, i don't really go into politics especially with what I do, & plus I learnt arguments are born out of politics & religion. But to answer your problem, what the British have become, or do you really mean what the English have become, ? what's the most scary, or which one is right ?. I do have to say I love my Country & will work with it the best to my ability, but that doesn't nescesarily I mean the government that is in power, but British or English ?

Well, if that was meant to be a joke, then even with a good sense of humour, I'm still waiting to laugh. I also think that he'll be getting less mail, for a while at least. I like to get to know the woman a bit at first and vice versa, see if the chemistry is there,I don't usually have sex on the first night. And as W.S. says: why put for friendship only? Isn't it relationships that people are after? Nothing wrong with having a friend on here but after all, isn't this called a dating agency? If I do find that I get on well with somebody, then I am prepared to travel and meet them and see if a realationship is a possibility and take it from there.

Niterider - thanks for your reply.
English or British? Well if I'm abroad, I'd avoid using the term 'British' because of its negative connotations (I was never a fan of the Jacobites anyway!) and say 'English' (which many abroad still associate with tea, cricket, civilisation and fair play), although I've nothing whatsoever against people of the other principalities. Perhaps I should have said the prevailing lack of culture, selfishness, and hedonism, which seems to have become the trademark of England. There are pockets of resistance to it though, which are arguably stronger in the celtic regions.

You're right, the way to deal with the prevailing introversion regarding dating is probably to go to one of the meets, so thanks for that.