Would you date a single mum?

"And I'm sure, being a self confessed narcissist is very off putting to many many others. There's no room left to love anyone else !!!!!! :):):)"

Mousebat, I am not sure if that is meant as a joke but if it is not, then I think it will be most off putting to nearly all men.

If you have a great love of yourself, the opposite of me, I hate going places where there are mirrors, then surely you don't need a man at all?

I guess you are just here for the conversations and the chat and there is nothing wrong in that.

Anyhow, this convo is to heavy for me, I don't have a good enough IQ to keep up with it so I will bow out and just keep reading.

I take the fifth !

:):)

irriatating, aren't I ?

:):)

Ha ha, I was waiting for a comment like that! :-)

of course you were ... happy to oblige.

Well, I must say it's a tad refreshing seeing a 'haha' rather than the usual woe is me.

Woe is me? I don't think so. You know, this medium can be so unrealistic. I may project that image sometimes, Okay Mousebat, you are going to say all the time, I'm actually quite different from that.

Life is to short to be all down in the dumps and each of us only gets one go at it so we all gotta make the best of what we do have and not moan about what we don't.

I have a friend, a disabled girl who has only one leg. Amputated at birth due to cancer, yet she is one of the most friendly people I know. She holds down a full time job and she never, and I mean never, moans about her predicament. She came with me to Brighton Wednesday night to the 80's concert. She lives life to the full, has a very active social life and I look up to her.

If she can do that, then I am more than sure I can too.

yawn!

oh come on! *mousebat rolls her eyes a full 360 degrees*

I do think so. That's how you come across on a lot of threads.

I've noticed that other people have said so as well.

Negative,whiny and back tracking comes to mind.

These are not very attractive qualities, in my opinion.

"Woe is me? I don't think so. You know, this medium can be so unrealistic. I may project that image sometimes, Okay Mousebat, you are going to say all the time, I'm actually quite different from that."

If you are 'different' then why project an unrealistic image of yourself, especially if you're looking to attract interest and possible dates.

"Life is to short to be all down in the dumps and each of us only gets one go at it so we all gotta make the best of what we do have and not moan about what we don't."

sounds like you need to take your own advice, in my opinion.

"If she can do that, then I am more than sure I can too. "

don't just say you will, go out and do it.

Personally, I don't let it bother me how I come across on threads. People either like what I say or they don't and if they feel the need to say so, then that's their perogative.

"If you are 'different' then why project an unrealistic image of yourself, especially if you're looking to attract interest and possible dates".

I will admit that sometimes I do find Saturday nights a killer. Like tonight. One out of two weekends I don't have my Son with me. If I have not got anything arranged to do, go out to or whatever, I often end up on this computer.

I look forward to child free time, but when I get it I don't know what to do with myself.

Okay so my thought processes can be a bit all over the place at times. What could you possibly expect? I am male after all said and done.

Oh, there's been another thread going! Must get out on the threads more!

Ha ha sad or what? When you are scrounging around on here looking for some kind of action, what has life become?

I don't mean you Keith, me really!

"irriatating, aren't I ?" ...is humour irritating?


"Okay so my thought processes can be a bit all over the place at times. What could you possibly expect? I am male after all said and done."

Perhaps you should have said that you were human - that way you could have tarred all humans with the same brush... or is it the minority that have a direction and purpose that is coherent - i.e. their way of being doesn't contradict their reason for being?

Work beckons... enjoy the sunshine :)

DB4uP

"irriatating, aren't I ?" ...is humour irritating? "

No, humour is not irritating if a person understands that it IS humour ! It's the indecision as to whether what I said was humourous or not. Plus that fact that I wasn't going to confirm or deny it either way could be seen as irritating, don't you think ?

I leave it up to the reader to make up their own mind, much more fun that way!

I work as a nursery nurse, so I spend my weekdays looking after your 3-5 year olds. However, I don't have any of my own and since I am turning 35, I wouldn't be averse to inheriting someone else's kids! However, that's because:

1) I don't have kids and 2) I want very much to have kids.

That said, I am wary of dating a woman whose children are older than 6 or 7 cos I feel like I am gonna forever be in this tricky circumstance of being a parent but not perceived as a father by the women's children. Add to that, the fact that one has to deal with exe's who resent or hate you and then fact that you have to be tied to that place you met, as the ex is not gonna agree to your relocating to Wales or New South Wales, Australia.

I still write to 'mums' I see online but if I actually had more luck getting ladies to respond to my invitations to connect, I'd probably just not write to mums at all, to be frank.

I think the answer to your question, will depend on how old the man is. I am old enough to consider it as more women my age are with kids. However, younger men are I think highly unlikely to opt to want to meet a single mum with kids.

Good luck to you all, eh...