Dilemma

Right, I've been back here for a week or so, and to be honest I'm undecided as to if I should stay or not.

After reading through some of the conversations, it appears I'm not the only one is seemingly frustrated with how the site has gone. After being away for a few months it was immediately apparent to me on my return that not only is the site suffering 'errors', but a lot of the 'regulars' either post sporadically or have left altogether. If they've left becasue they've found the right person then that's great, but I get the feeling that some have left to try pastures new, and have joined one of the free dating sites that are available.

I'll try and explain my position. I'm not looking for a relationship at all, I've come to the conclusion that I'm crap at them and friendship is all I'm looking for. So what can this site offer me that I couldn't find on another dating site, or even in a chat room? This is the first dating site I joined, and there are some great people on here that I would like to stay in touch with (whether that feeling is mutual or not I'll soon find out lol).

So come on guys, give me some guidance here!

Mark :-)

Welcome back Mark :)

Whatever this site has, it certainly seems to have people coming back to it all the time... so, I suppose that's a reason in itself.

Hello Mark:

Relationships are hard work. Even if the person is not to far away, as is unlikely on a site such as this, there are still many other factors that can make such relationship impossible or nearly impossible.

Think you have the right idea, friendship is the way to go. I think I have given up on finding "The One" yet I do find having a good circle of friends goes a long way toward replacing that.

I wish you well.

Thanks Di, but you know I'll probably disappear into the ether again before long lol ;-)

I think I'll have to start some 'interesting' conversations soon, just to get things going again :-)

Well it can offer you friendships thats for sure and theres a few who are willing to give good advice etc.

You are right re the conversations though Mark, for those who have nothing better to do and stuck in in the evenings with no friends its frustrating when you come online and theres no one about or interesting threads to join in with. There may be a thread going on that you would like to join in but dont as you dont know what the converstion is all about as such as you could feel awkward and feel like you are intruding but fun to follow. There are some great personalities on this site and there can be fun and laughter all night long on a good night!

Anyway, welcome back Mark, but arent you missing something? Off your head I mean! lol. Yes get some threads going and bring back the regular posters along with the new!

Jue :o)

Jue, are you talking about my hair, or the 'more famous than me' balloons? ;-)

I'm not sure I have the pulling power (koff) to bring everyone back, but chances are I'll stick around to confuse and annoy some people :-)

Your balloons Mark lol!

Hey who knows, you might just pull it off :o) Whatever you do it beats silence ;o)

Hi Mark welcome back ...as you can see some of us are still here...not sure thats a good thing!!

But while I'm waiting for the right one to come along I'm happy chatting to friends on here, although as you have found it is a wee bit quiet latelybut on occasions we do have a fun night, girls night in or pub evening still :) x

hello mark ,

nice to see you again .
dont know if you remenber me from bristol meet lol .
i asked who you were , didnt have a clue as only seen you with ya balloons haha

Don't suppose 'ether' would mind too much Mark... but does she know about your balloons! ;D

Of course I remember you....erm.....um......what's your name again? ;-)

Di, 'ether' will probably dump me soon anyway, so I'll probably stick around for a while.

The balloons are dead! Long live the balloons!

Hi Mark

I'm still not really sure what your question is other than 'what can the site offer me'? Thing is, this site and also the threads are as much about what you put in - as are any potential friendships. There's really no point you being here at all if you're just sat watching your screen waiting for it to entertain you... Perhaps a bit of involvement, try emailing a few people, join in the threads, etc.

Looking forward to your new threads... I've been a bit quiet lately on that score as been a touch preoccupied, but tis only a matter of time ;) I'm also out a lot more these days so often only have time to read up on latest posts or new emails.

This site is better in my opinion when it's an add on to your life, not the main feature which should be, your life! Ah, confucius say... ;)

Hi Jan well put that...you get out what you put in :)

I put it in; now I am not able to get it out. Help.

Where did you put it??!! ;-)

Somewhere in the forum.

Shouldn't put anything in that you don't want to put in!

As far as I recall, the discussion on this thread is around what to put in and how much of it must go in, and whether there's any point to put it in, with the winner argument being, if you've got it, just put it in, and get it out to get the most out of it.

But....you couldn't get out what you put in, therefore failing to get out of it what you put in :-O

I come here for the philosophical discussions...ummm.... :o/